Archive for Happiness

How to Create an Effective, Believable Affirmation

 

Affirmations are a wonderful way to say something kind, powerful and true about ourselves. We experience life through how we think.  We experience the majority of life through our repetitious thoughts.  These thoughts are rarely challenged.

For example, if we think of ourselves as ugly, our experience of ourselves through the world is mostly that, Ugly.  In order to change this we need to create some new habits of thought.  Affirmations are a way to create this.

If you are new to affirmations, a simple affirmation may sound phony, and frankly like BS, bullshit.  Most people stop saying their affirmations because it doesn’t feel true or they feel very uncomfortable saying it.

Here is a simple, super effective way, to believe your affirmation after you create it.

Create your affirmation using I AM statements.  Powerful affirmations are created in the present tense.  “I AM a rock star at creating affirmations!”
No worries if your affirmation feels untrue.  In fact this is quite common and the reason for its creation.

You may create your affirmation to counter balance a negative belief you have about yourself.  For example, “I am beautiful” to counter the “I am ugly” negative self talk that replays in your head.

Special Note about the affirmation process:  This process works best when you say the words out loud.

Step 1:  Create your I AM statement.
Step 2:  State your affirmation with clarity, out loud.  In order to believe it…State your affirmation.  Then go ahead and state why it isn’t true.  Out loud.  The mind’s objections to the affirmation.  Let it out. End it with simple Thank You.

“I am beautiful.”
“That’s just crazy.  Did you see my outfit tonight?  My hair is frizzy.  And my skin…”  Thank you.

Step 3:  State you affirmation again. Simply, with respect.
Say again aloud the objections. State it simply and with dignity.  End with Thank you.
“I am beautiful.”
“But my hair’s not brushed…there’s some weird dot over my eye…”  Thank you.

Step 4:  State your affirmation again. Simply with respect and dignity.
Say aloud the objections.  Simply.  End it with Thank you.

Step 5:  Repeat this process several times.

After each time, notice the objections are less and less.
You will reach a point (usually around 7 or 8 times) when there are NO objections.
A simple quiet clarity.

“I AM beautiful.”
Step 6:  State your affirmation again.  Feel the truth of the words.

That is how you create an effective, believable affirmation.
Every time you state it afterwards, feel the truth of the statement.
You are that.

Consciously Create 2014 and Let Go of 2013

 

The New Year is upon us.  It is the time where 2013 has come to her end. All of her offerings given.  Our triumphs, our sorrows, our victories, our defeats.  All moments have value.

As you step into 2014, what are you ready to let go of?  Let go with the dignity and respect for what it had to offer?

Can you say Thank you?  Without you, I wouldn’t be who I am today.

For those of you out there that experienced extreme heartache in 2013, maybe you can’t feel the Thank you.  That’s okay.  A simple acknowledgement can move mountains.  Acknowledgement that you are angry at the year, or sad at the year.

As the year unfolds, she shows us who we are.  How we react to life.  What we enjoy.  What we do not like.  We do not need to embrace everything.  A simple Thank You acknowledgement for the value offered is enough.

As we step into the New Year-2014, a new unfolding, what would you like?

What do you want to experience?

If your mind goes straight to “I don’t want experience that again!”  Ask yourself what would you like to experience?  How do you want to feel?  What do you want to see?  What does your vision sound like?

Conscious creation is a dance between noticing the Do Not Want and the return to what would I like.

The do not want usually sounds anguished with deep emotion.

Can you put equal emphasis on What would I like!

Take a moment to write it down.  Share your vision with trusted loved ones.  Read it out loud.  It’s magical to share.  Have a fulfilling New Year!

2014

Permission to be Happy

 

Do you ever think to yourself, with all that is wrong with my life, I don’t have the right to be happy?  How can I be happy when I still work this job, have this relationship, live in this space?  Grateful! What a load of hooey!  Who has time for that?

Most people if you ask them what they want in life they respond they want to be happy.Have you given yourself permission to notice what is working well in your life? Even if it may mean that there are places that aren’t working as well as you envisioned?  Can you notice what is working well anyway?

I hear a common theme from my clients.  They tell me with everything wrong with the world, how can they possibly be happy or grateful?

We do not have control over the world.  But we do have control over ourselves.  Do you want to wait until the world is in order before you can admit to yourself that there may be some things in your life that are amazing?  Perhaps amazing in the ordinary day to day living?  How about now?

In the beginning it may seem inauthentic or phony to list out what rocks in your life.  What if you listed it out anyway and you noticed it made you happy?

We live our lives in every moment of every day.  We live in a world where we l0se everything at one point or another.

It is how we react to it that makes all the difference in the world.