Life has a funny way of taking us on detours. We believe we are on track, engaging in business, doing great in our job, we settle into our normal routine of life.
Then in a day everything changes. You receive a phone call. You learn a loved one is seriously ill. One day your pet dies. You wake up to find someone has busted your car window. Some detours are small and take a short amount of time to get back on track. A few hours or a day. Other detours are life changing and can change the course of who you are.
When the detours happen how can you get back on track?
Here are a few tips that can help.
Recognize that this too shall pass-If you are dealing with any kind of loss (money, family, friends) there is a period of time of grief. That period of time is different for everyone. Time does heal the wounds. There will be moments when the pain lessens, a moment where you begin to focus more outward, less inward. Give yourself time to experience the emotions. Try not to make yourself wrong if you are not on your A game and are not doing the things you normally do. Sadness, anger, frustration, all of these emotions cloud our ability to think clearly and to take action.
What helps you feel good- Is it your yoga practice? Your silent meditation in the morning? A cup of tea with a friend? A walk? A favorite blog? Your book group? Happy hour? Music? Everyone’s oasis is different. People tend to forget what helps them feel better in times of stress. Once a day, for 10 minutes a day, do something specific for you. Choose a time, early in the morning or late in the evening where you are certain to not be interrupted.
Consider Life’s Pause Button-One thing I hear from my clients is the frustration of having to put their life on hold when these things happen. They feel irritated at themselves for not keeping up with their classes, their businesses, their career, their health. Consider this stressful time a place where you press the pause button on your project. It isn’t going anywhere. We sometimes judge ourselves harshly for not getting it all done. Each one of us only has 24 hours in a day. In times of stress, the number one priority becomes You.
When you are ready to jump in again unpause the button.
In the meantime when you are in the in-between space of feeling normal and feeling stress…
1). Reach out to friends and colleagues who are doing the things you want to do. Say hello.
2). Stay connected to your project with blog articles, videos, websites. Choose how much or how little is right for you.
3). Connect with your support team. Your life coach, a mentor, a friend, minister, teacher, counselor, therapist, nutritionist, massage therapist, etc. These individuals can help support you through the stressful times and lessen the amount of time you spend there.